The Whole Truth and Nothing But The Truth

November 6, 2009


It’s real important to be completely honest with your spouse. You don’t get to decide what or how much you think they can handle. That’s not your decision to make. Let them decide once you’ve told the whole truth.


Song For Lovers: Heaven Can Wait

November 6, 2009

Heaven Can Wait by Michael Jackson

Fridge Count

October 31, 2009


Is every household like this?

It must be one of the cardinal differences between men and women. I noticed my mom did it, now my wife is the same way. When a guy makes a purchase at the grocery store, you know, chips, sodas, whatever, he eats it within about a week or so. When a woman buys something for herself to snack on, it’s in the refrigerator for 96 days before she eats it. It drives me nuts because when my snacks are gone, I am eyeballing some of the snacks that she’s bought. So, long story short… I wonder if she’ll notice it’s missing.

Happy To Get Married?

October 24, 2009

These are friends of my parents but I still couldn’t help sharing this video. They ended up winning America’s Funniest Home Videos with this.

Song For Lovers: First Time Ever I Saw Your Face

October 17, 2009

First Time Ever I Saw Your Face

The first time ever I saw your face
I thought the sun rose in your eyes
And the moon and stars were the gifts you gave
To the dark and the empty skies, my love,
To the dark and the empty skies.

The first time ever I kissed your mouth
And felt your heart beat close to mine
Like the trembling heart of a captive bird
That was there at my command, my love
That was there at my command.

And the first time ever I lay with you
I felt your heart so close to mine
And I knew our joy would fill the earth
And last till the end of time my love
It would last till the end of time my love

The first time ever I saw your face, your face,
your face, your face

Anniversary Lesson: What I’ve Learned So Far

October 10, 2009


WeddingPhotos 002This weekend Thea and I celebrated our anniversary. Another year of marriage.  Now, granted, we haven’t been married a long time but being married for any amount of time there are lessons that are immediately learned if you are paying attention.

So here are a few things that I have personally learned in these few years of marriage so far. These were learned either by experience or observation but lessons learned nevertheless.

1. Two people go to the alter to become one, but many leave the alter trying to defend their individuality… NOT a good look.

2. Be honest all the time and don’t try to hold stuff in. You’ll build resentment and it makes it tough to recover.

3. A need does not have to be logically understood to be legitimate. It may not make sense to you why your spouse needs what they need… just find a way to meet that need.

4. My hurts, pains, and issues should not be my concerns but should be my spouses’ and my spouse’s hurts, pains, and issues should not be her concern, but should mine. When we spend more time focusing “away from ourselves” we create a better environment. It leaves selfishness behind.

5. Pay attention to the details.

6. Sometimes things are NOT that big of a deal, so don’t make a big issue over nothing…

7. But sometimes things ARE that big of a deal. Learn to know the difference

8. Be always encouraging. You can get a lot more out of your spouse by encouraging rather than criticism.

9. Don’t throw out simple courtesies. The people at your job should not hear ”please and thank you” more than the person who you have promised your life to.

10. Keep studying your spouse. Just because you married them doesn’t mean you have learned all there is to know.

11. Date nights. Enough said

12. Learn to BELIEVE the love.

13. Learn the reality of “Just the two of us”

14. Help out around the house

15. Give each other some space from time to time

16. Be all over each other

17. Learn to take correction.

18. Quick Recovery Time

19. Use big plays from your playbook when it’s 1st and 10, not just when you sense things are bad

20. Have a good time. It’s going to be a lifetime.

Are You A Slacker?

September 21, 2009

Here is another post from Perry Noble: You can find more of his blog at

The below post is about slacking off in your marriage.


Yesterday I spoke on husbands and wives slacking off in their marriages…so how do you know when a spouse is slacking off?

He’s Slacking Off When…

  • What is special to her is no longer special to him – you didn’t have this attitude when you were dating, but once you married her you thought, “I don’t have to work now!”  Wrong…you’ve got to work harder!
  • You won’t pray with her or for her!
  • You stop pursuing her romantically and sexually.
  • You see her as your servant rather than your opportunity to serve.
  • You want to use her for sex and don’t care if she truly feels connected romantically to you.
  • You talk down to her and/or constantly raise your voice to her.
  • You compare her to other women…in front of her.
  • You are keeping secrets from her.

She’s Slacking Off When…

  • You love talking about him (in your prayer gossip group) but have no desire to talk to him about the problem.
  • You love it when he spends more time at work…that means you don’t have to be around him as much.
  • You disrespect him out loud and often in front of your children.
  • You know TONS about the lives of your kids…but are clueless about what is going on in his life.
  • You withold sex to punish him and/or to get your way.
  • You are keeping secrets from him.

And…in case you didn’t pick up the questions yesterday (or for those who were not there)…we handed out a card with five questions on it that we challenged husbands and wives to use as a guide to have a conversation with one another sometime in the next 24 hours…the questions were…

1) Have you ever had sex with someone other than me since we have been married?
2) Where have I become slack in my efforts to make you feel important?
3) Men ask your wife to complete this sentence: I think its romantic
when you_____.
4) Women ask your husband to complete this sentence:I feel the most
appreciated and respected when you________.
5)Are you engaging in anything online that you be ashamed of if I found out?